As I was drifting off to sleep a few questions came to my mind and I new I should have gotten up to write them down but I didn’t. So, I will try to remember some of them.
The one I can remember best is has God abandoned me in my loss? Of course, the answer is an emphatic NO. All of us who have experienced the passing of a loved one has had this thought. Even though God doesn’t abandon us, I do believe we abandon Him. We turn our backs on Him in disbelief that He would allow this to happen to me. In my case it was my 47 year old son, but yours may be a spouse or parent taken suddenly. Maybe you are like a friend whose 45 year old son died of cancer and 5 weeks later lost her husband to heart failure. If we are Bible readers we may stop, or if we are church attendees then we may stop that as well, isolating ourselves from the very God and people who can help us through.
The are seven stages of grief that are generally accepted: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, reconstruction/processing, and acceptance/hope. You may experience these or may not. Most likely, you will not in that order and that is not important. You might experience certain ones, but the most import are reconstruction and HOPE.
In follow up post I will try to cover these and of course if you have questions please contact me.
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